Why does it feel like no matter what you do, it’s never enough?
You land the promotion, post the perfect photo, or get the praise you’ve been chasing—but the feeling doesn’t last. The high fades, and the cycle starts all over again.
That’s the trap of external validation.
It feels good in the moment, but it’s a quick fix. Like drinking salt water when you’re thirsty, it leaves you feeling more drained in the end.
I know because I’ve been there.
For years, I looked for worth in the things I achieved or the way others saw me. If people were impressed, if I checked the right boxes, I thought I’d feel fulfilled.
But instead, I burned out. I lost touch with who I really was because I was chasing what others thought I should be.
Here’s what I’ve learned: external validation is a moving target. You’ll never hit it because it keeps shifting.
True fulfilment starts with internal validation.
It’s about recognizing your worth without needing anyone else to agree. It’s about knowing you’re enough—not because of what you’ve done, but because of who you are.
So, how do you break free from the cycle? Start small.
1. Pause before you seek approval. Ask yourself: “Am I doing this because I want to or because I want validation?”
2. Celebrate your wins privately. You don’t need an audience to recognise your progress.
3. Define your values. When you live by them, you don’t need outside opinions to tell you you’re on the right track.
These shifts take time, but they’re worth it. When you stop chasing validation, you’ll find freedom.
Where are you still seeking external validation?
If this resonates, I’d love to help you explore it further. Hit reply and tell me about it.
You’re enough as you are. Let’s build from there.
—Eric
P.S.
If you’re ready to stop chasing validation and start building real self-worth, I’d love to support you.
I’m opening up spots for one-on-one coaching in the new year. Together, we’ll uncover what’s holding you back, reconnect you with your authentic self, and help you design a life that feels true to you.
Spots are limited, so if this feels like the right time, let’s talk.
Your future self will thank you.
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